Standing out in a world that constantly tries to fit you in, is the hardest thing to do. The more free spirited you are ,the more pressurizing it gets to conform to the set standards of society. The more evolved you are, the more difficult it gets to connect to people. Being yourself and living your life according to your own terms and conditions is the biggest victory one can achieve in a life time. Very very few people are able to pursue being themselves. They conform easily and do not have the strength to stand up for themselves. The rest of the people include individuals like me who fight hidden battles every day just to be themselves. The fight is difficult. Really difficult but worth it.

If you happen to be one of those people who are elevated and hold a certain degree of intellect, you will find increasingly hard to connect with the world around you. You will easily get what others think but the others won’t get what you think. What you go through will be something that only you will be able to confront and solve. You get accustomed that way. There will be moments when you want to reach out because you’re only human but you will not be able to do that. The reason being that you have always managed every crisis on your own. Not just yours but every one else’s as well.

People view individuals like me as strong and rightfully so but even the most strongest person needs to reach out sometime. The feeling where you’re understood without explaining. The feeling where you just need answers and no questions. The feeling where you’re not the one who acts as the sponge for people’s issues but someone else is. However it just doesn’t happen. Didn’t happen 20 years ago. Won’t happen 20 years henceforth. So, you learn to conceal your feelings from the world because you know expressing them will be no good. It isn’t that the world does not want to understand you. Its just that the world does not know how to understand you. Hence your guard is always up. You never put it down, both literally and metaphorically.

Every change, every new phase is handled by you independently. You learn to figure out things yourself. Your inner most feelings are only yours. You learn to put a brave smiling face in front of the world because you know that there is no market for one’s issues. None at all. You don’t cry in front of people because you know that the world is not used to seeing you that way. You won’t be even given time to sob. The world likes you happy and chirpy even in the most challenging circumstances. Becomes extremely difficult sometimes, especially if you are a wise, intellectual and liberal individual. Becomes the toughest if you’re an intellectual woman.You do have that slight expectation of ‘being reached out to’ sometimes, without asking for it.  So you wait and remain optimistic that maybe someday somebody will get you. Especially the people you connect to.

Till then you keep going strong , moving ahead, learning at being stronger each day. You realize that magic is something that only you create. That is why you stand out. Always have, always will.

26 thoughts on “Disconnect

  1. I read somewhere once… “Life is a comedy for those that think and a tragedy for those that feel”. It is hard going your own way, but a life lived authentically can be such a beautiful thing. Thanks for sharing!

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  2. So many very true things! We hide, we keep what we think to ourselves, sometimes we find someone who we can share those things with! If that lasts a long time, we are certainly lucky people! There are “unshareable” thoughts.😀 Most of the times we find that by ourselves and at a high price!😀 Have a great day!


  3. This post is so true! and like you said, it seems that being an intellectual woman is even more difficult. Why do you think this is? because society expects women to have a specific role in family?
    And as you say the more you live like you and according to your dreams, the more difficult is to connect with other people. The past couple of years, I finally learnt to live according to my own ideals, my own dreams, and by just being me and not like people around me want me to be, the consequence is that each time is more difficult to connect with people. My close friends are not that close anymore and finding a significant other looks more difficult with the time.
    Loved this post!


  4. You take whatever you get. Even if no one understands you completely, a few things are always relatable and understandable. Take whatever you can get
    Also, I said it to a friend of mine once, as long as you understand what you feeling, that’s enough


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